At this rate I’ll inadvertently offend the entire internet by 2012

Have you ever written something that is taken completely wrong by somebody reading it? Something that they interpret as a personal blow? Something that causes a reader to instantly form this vicious negative opinion of you? And regardless of what you say from that point on they are going to read spite and poison in your words?

Or rather, I’ve learned sarcasm doesn’t always translate in the written word.

And, I’m pretty confident this is happening to me right now. I can’t be entirely sure but I’m getting a strong vibe that says it is true. Which is ridiculous.

Now I could be wrong, maybe they aren’t directing negativity towards me at all. Or perhaps this person never liked me. Maybe I’m reading into it wrong and it is a series of coincidental comments that have led me to this conclusion. But I doubt it. My heart tells me otherwise.

What is crazy is that the comment wasn’t directed at them at all. I was simply choosing not to state the obvious and instead attempted to make an apparently failed joke at Americana. The thing is, other people got it. Or least the comments they left led me to think they did. So I don’t feel like I should apologize for one person not getting my obviously-an-acquired-taste sense of humor. Although I did later state the obvious comment I omitted before as well as clarified that what my original statement was poking at.

And now there is this strong feeling of animosity being directed towards me.

What’s a girl to do?

I guess nothing.

I can’t help but make sarcastic comments. It’s in my nature. I sincerely don’t mean any harm. Some people get that. Some people don’t. Some people prefer not to even if they make the same comments on their own. I suppose I’m okay with that, I just need to make sure to surround myself with the people that get it.

I have a friend that used to tell people a little over a decade ago that “either you love her or you hate her” when discussing my personality. Apparently that still holds true.

28 comments to At this rate I’ll inadvertently offend the entire internet by 2012

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  • I know what you mean. Most people don’t get me, and they either love or hate me. Mostly hate. I say fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke.

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    *pixie* Reply:

    You know I was thinking earlier of how we connected through blogging about gaming or something years ago, but we have stayed connected because of personality. You and the Mrs. are just good people. I get that even if you have a soft side for crude humor. :)

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    Nobody Reply:

    It’s true. I do have a soft spot for crude humor. And yes, I remember it like it was just three of four years ago, you posted something about some game or other that I can’t remember. Okay, on second thought, I don’t remember it that well. But I do remember that the first time I read your blog it was a post about a game. Possibly a Sopranos game, which was my favorite TV show at the time. Anyway, you seemed pretty cool so I kept reading.

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    *pixie* Reply:

    I think it was the Sopranos game—way before it actually came out.

    Thanks for sticking around. One of these days we’ll actually meet in person. I’m going to hug you when we do. That’s okay right?

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    Nobody Reply:

    Will there be any inappropriate groping involved?

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    Nobody Reply:

    WP won’t let me reply to your reply to my reply to your reply to my comment…

    ANYway, I’m looking forward it.

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    *pixie* Reply:

    I fixed it. Reply to your reply to my reply to your reply away. Or something.

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    *pixie* Reply:

    Groping? Probably. You know how JQ can be.

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  • Nah, not the entire internet, just those that think they are ‘all that’, because they are still stuck in high school… the rest of us – Laugh – because we get your sense of humor.

    ;-)

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    *pixie* Reply:

    Yeah, my humor tends to resonate with 12 year old boys. I imagine you understand that so well since it’s the same way with your husband. ;)

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  • I love you. And some people are way to sensitive.

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    *pixie* Reply:

    I love you too. Which is why I let you stuff me in your purse in Vegas.

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  • those types of people need to just get over themselves.

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    *pixie* Reply:

    Maybe they thought it was mean because they would have meant it in a malicious way had they said it? Hard telling.

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  • Christina

    I’ve become a horrible lurker, but I really do come here and read your blog regularly because I love what you write and the way you write it (I’m also painfully jealous of your design talent; I mean that as a compliment — once I told someone I was jealous of how well their baby slept at night and they were offended, so whatever). Anyway, I just had to go back and reread every post since you started NaBloPoMo to figure out what someone could have found offensive and it’s just beyond me. People can be so crazy and sensitive and walking on eggshells never looks good on anybody.

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    *pixie* Reply:

    Wow, thank you for the incredibly kind words about my writing and design work. That means more than you might imagine. And no, I would never be offended by that. Or if you were envious of my kid’s sleep habits. That’s just crazy.

    The incident wasn’t from something I wrote on my blog. It was in one of the many other social media realms I like to dabble in. Regardless, I guess inflection doesn’t always translate in a 12 point roman weight font. :)

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  • naynayfazz

    I agree with Christina in saying….how could offend anyone? I know I don’t know you in “real life” but you do not strike me as someone who could be offensive and/or so sarcastic that someone could take it as you being mean. Have you spoken to the person you think you offended? It can’t hurt to try and find out for sure before you jump to conclusions. On a similar topic, remember I was telling you the other night I thought my aunt unfriended me on Facebook? I didn’t want to jump to conclusions because I have learned my lesson NOT to do that. I just simply asked her if there was a problem with Facebook or if I did something wrong. Turns out, it was a problem with her Facebook and quite a few people asked her the same thing. Because my family has so many problems with her, I assumed she was being petty with me! But I was wrong so I am glad I kept my cool and inquired before reacting. That’s a hard lesson to learn but better late than never!

    Anyway, I don’t think you should stop being who you are because it ain’t so bad, girl. I think in the end your real friends will stick by you no matter how silly/sarcastic/bitchy/whatever you are. :) And the rest of ‘em…..

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    *pixie* Reply:

    Thanks. :) I’m glad to hear the thing with your aunt was just a misunderstanding.

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  • naynayfazz

    Damn… my last sentence got cut off! I said: And the rest of ‘em…… (insert fart noise here). Not sure how that happened! Woops!

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    *pixie* Reply:

    pppffffffftttt… (that’s the fart noise I’m inserting. :)

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  • Tim

    Reminds me of that whole moon crash thing on FB a few weeks ago. Some people need to lighten up.

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    *pixie* Reply:

    Your comments on the moon crash thing cracked me up. It reminded me of when I first started reading your blog. So funny. That’s the kind of stuff I’m talking about.

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  • Sacasm keeps me sane. Which is probably why I surround myself who get my wiity and sometimes very stupid sense of humor. I can’t see how anything you say here or anywhere else could be misconstrued if they know you. I for one love your sarcasm and sense of humor and hope you don’t change for one dreary person who just doesn’t get it. Yes, sometimes sarcasm is hard to convey in the written word, but anyone who knows you will know you mean no ill will. I have had this happen to myself before, so I say just move on. Yow can’t make everyone happy all the time. :)

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    *pixie* Reply:

    I love witty and stupid! I could never leave them behind.

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  • I meant I surround myself with people who get my witty and sometimes very stupid sense of humor. And I meant you can’t make everyone happy all the time. Obviously my fingers are not talking to my brain today. Sorry…

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  • So I must start by stating that I am a fan of sarcasm…and of your blog. My biases will therefore show in my comments.

    I would agree that sarcasm does not always translate the written word. I have learned through painful experience that expressing yourself in online forums has a price. I’m always surprised when my words are understood differently than I originally intended. Or when I say something and offend inadvertently. (I had a whopper of an experience on Twitter recently when I retweeted someone else’s comment that, taken out of context, sounded hateful and racist. Whoa. There’s a lesson to be learned…)

    It happens. You get it over it. They get over it. And if they don’t, then the problem is bigger than a misstatement or misinterpretation. And that’s a different issue.

    Some of us blog (when we do and not often enough yet…grrr) for business. Our objectives are to share information, position ourselves as experts, drive traffic, etc. Others blog as a form of expression, a way of connecting,an exercise in creativity. Your blog strikes me as the latter. So, as long as you are being true to yourself and not overtly cruel–how is whatever you said wrong? Bad? Not seeing it. Sarcasm, while it does not always translate, is a delightful tool (I am perhaps overly fond of it?).

    You could, of course, come right out and ask the individual whether they were offended and then explain your original intent. Or, you could move on, knowing that more people got it than didn’t.

    I enjoy your blog, Holly. I enjoy your tweets. I like seeing the photos and the different headers and I applaud your courage in expressing yourself. I also understand the balance you strive to keep, between being true to yourself and your creative vision, and being respectful of the conventions in your life.

    I think you do a good job.

    So there.

    ;)

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    *pixie* Reply:

    Knowing that you have personally faced this issue is part of the reason I was glad to see you respond to this. Your second paragraph is exactly what I needed to hear.

    Thank you for your kind words in regards to what I do here on the blog and in life. You are a gem and I’m so thankful that we have crossed paths in life.

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