If I show up to the big family party in my pajamas I may have taken the policy a bit too seriously

I decided on Wednesday afternoon that I am not going to let the holidays stress me out this year. Starting with the Thanksgiving dinner I was hosting the next day. If my grandmother showed up too early that would be okay. If my in-laws showed up late, well that would be okay too. We would eat when everything was ready regardless of how on schedule that was to my original plan. I would just let the day unfold naturally. I planned on being totally zen about the situation. As opposed to the quasi-bitchy-and-can’t-relax state I’m usually in when I host a family gathering.

And guess what? Thanksgiving was awesome. My father-in-law even sent me a text later that night to tell me that they had a great time and to complement me on my table decorations. So I’m continuing with that policy for the rest of the year.

Christmas shopping this year isn’t going to piss me off and make me stabby. Instead, I’m doing as much as I can online and won’t freak out if they are out of stock. No, really. I’ve already encountered just that very thing. Of course, that may be easy for me this year since G-tot doesn’t just have to have some hot off the production line toy and nobody has any specific desires for gifts. In fact, I started shopping on Friday leisurely looking at the online Black Friday deals and ordering a handful of gifts as well as a couple of things for me. The stuff for me was just a Twilight special edition DVD for a ridiculously low $8.99 and some undies so I’m not breaking the “don’t buy anything for yourself until after Christmas” rule that was set by my mom years ago. Good rule, just really hard to do sometimes. But anyway, the shopping. Easy-peasey. Not at all stressful. Free shipping. And I practically spent less at each place on all the items combined then I would have if I had to pay full price for just one of those items. Which much more simply stated = good deals.

Why did I not do this before?

This afternoon we started putting up the Christmas tree but even that is happening at a low-key sort of pace. The tree is up and the lights are on but that is it so far. G-tot can’t keep his hands off the lights so that should make for an interesting month. Tomorrow we will probably put on the ornaments and get out the rest of the decorations. And if tomorrow turns into Tuesday or Friday, that’s okay.

Because this year I’m not going to stress out. Instead I’m going to really embrace the holiday spirit and what it might look like through the eyes of a toddler. I’m going to bask in the beauty of fresh fallen snow. I’m going to suck up the elixir of G-tot’s reaction when he sees presents under the tree Christmas morning. I’m going to enjoy all the wonderful little moments that only happen this time of year instead of being bogged down with hostility towards the consumeristic side that inevitably comes with the season.

How about you?

10 comments to If I show up to the big family party in my pajamas I may have taken the policy a bit too seriously

  • I think this is exactly what I need to do this year. Especially in light of what happened yesterday and what we are going through now. Really puts everything into perspective and makes you appreciate the little things and how much mor important family and experiences are rather than stuff and appearances. Thanks for reminding me. :)

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    *pixie* Reply:

    I’m continuing to send good thoughts for your family. I know how much you need them right now. *hugs*

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  • I’m flying to sydney with two girls in one week, so all my planning and panicking has pretty much already happened! I have bought almost every present from Amazon. I hope to relax once we arrive!

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    *pixie* Reply:

    Hopefully the panicking is done with and you can just enjoy the rest of the year.

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  • amyfidler

    i am also searching for this… so great to hear how you’re getting through it. i am learning patience. my tree is still in the box [yes we go artificial] and i wanted it to be up on friday. maybe i’ll make it by next week…?

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    *pixie* Reply:

    We were hoping to get the tree up on Friday but it didn’t happen. Out of the box, assembled, and lights on Saturday. Sunday we did ornaments in two lazy sessions—one before and one after G-tot’s nap. No rush, it will happen sooner or later.

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  • Amber

    That actually brought tears to my eyes. It is my goal to enjoy the holiday every year. Inevitably, my lack of finances always causes me way too much stress. This year is even worse. I want Aria to have the perfect Christmas. But the pursuit of perfection always leaves me stressed. For example, taking Aria and Aaron to the Holiday parade downtown. We left later than I wanted, I was stressed, couldn’t find a parking spot, more stress, almost hit someone, total stress. Threw a fit and ticked off Aaron. Aria was quiet, but oh, the massive guilt of that tizzy I threw. Ruined rest of parade for me. So, once again, starting now, I am trying to just enjoy the holiday and realize it’s not about how much money I can spend or doing the “perfect” holiday activities. I just want to enjoy my daughter, my significant other, and the holiday season. Wee-sheww, thanks for letting me get that off my chest.

    Oh, btw, I enjoyed your dinner and your hospitality. Food and company were good. Thank you.

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    *pixie* Reply:

    Thanks Amber.

    The “perfect” holiday activities won’t be the ones that cost a lot of money, but the ones that Aria has fun doing with you. Remember perfection can’t be found in a $40 piece of plastic that will be old news by February. It can however be found in a snowman in your front yard or a drive through the neighborhood to look at all the lights. It could be a family movie with a fort, some popcorn, and mugs of hot chocolate. It isn’t about the money we spend, it’s about the memories we make through togetherness.

    *Hugs* :)

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  • Icanhasdiary

    This all sounds really great. I love how your decision to not let things get the better of you and just go with the flow enabled you to have a lovely holiday… and it worked on your relatives, too! Well done. That also goes for the zen-shopping. I’m going to give that a try this year as well.
    Enjoy every minute through your toddler-eyes! And be sure to stop by here and tell us about what you see. :)

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    *pixie* Reply:

    This has been the best year yet with G-tot. He is FASCINATED by the tree. I can’t wait to take him to the lights at the zoo this year. Talk about being in awe. They have over a million lights on display with many of them being animated. It’s very cool.

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